The origins of self-esteem in infancy / The sibling link / The role of the mother in developing the capacity to bear emotion / One, two, three, baby you and me : baby's experience of self and others / Oedipal anxieties, the birth of a new baby, and the role of the observer / Fear of massacre and death : containing anxiety in the neonatal intensive care unit / Keep on knocking but you can't come in : rejection as a defence against emotional pain in the NICU / The shadow of your smile : intrusion or engulfment / Learning from infant observation : understanding adults in psychoanalytic psychotherapy / Teaching infant observation : developing a language of understanding / Teaching infant observation by video-link / Infant observation augmented by the affective learning experience / Learning through affective group experience